SPECIAL: DOMME OPINION PIECE BY MISTRESS ANASTASIA

well, like i have been taught, never mind the haters, just carry on.in my loser eyes “porn”[ what is that people having consensual sex on film,,ok]had over the years kept me from a lot of heart ache,out of a lot of trouble{i.e. maybe dui driving to and from adult clubs} and maybe the best part has kept me disease free,just me and my hand haha haha]now being the wholly owned slave of Goddess Kyaa,there is no need for that anymore,this is where i belong.although i am in my infancy of being Her slave,i live, eat, breath this lifestyle of being owned by Her.the big surprize to me is by surrendering everything to Her,there does become a Goddess/slave relationship,more than i ever could have dreamed for,weather it be real time or internet,it is very real to me either way.speaking of which, for real i need to go to work for Her right now.

I know some relationships online (the long term ones like you and Kyaa have) are definitely real. I’m not talking about the Dommes like Kyaa that are obviously lifestyle, it’s obvious to Me She has a very deep understanding of BDSM and I’m sure gets off to the control and power just as I do, not sure if She does r/t, but even if She doesn’t, that’s not the type I am talking about that to Me are “acting” that do strictly online and nothing in r/l. I’m talking about ones that it’s obvious they don’t enjoy this, they wouldn’t do this if the money wasn’t there for it, they don’t actually get off to Dominating, etc. Those are the ones I think are acting.

Not sure if I offended you or you misunderstood what I was saying, just trying to elaborate a bit on it.

I’ve had very real relationships with subs online, so yes it’s possible. But often the “Dommes” that attack Me for the way I am don’t do r/t, don’t mess with longterm online subs, and just want cash right away and don’t want to spend much time with the subs, they only want the money. So I often feel they attack Me because I am very real and they feel threatened by that, it threatens their income so to speak.

motivation

I’ve done alot of thinking about this lately and I think it comes down to what the personal motivation is for the person involved in performing the act (excuse the pun). Is she in fact *acting* for profit~ as in reading a script or not doing it naturally? Is she performing an act that she would be doing regardless and it just happens to be recorded and sold?

I’ve said before that I, personally, don’t think dommes should be inserting things into their own orifices (or having a sub do it, or a lover or whatever) for profit~ no dicks, dildos, or digits (fingers, toes). That may be considered old fashioned or conservative but My opinion is formed from watching this scene evolve both online and off as well as some study of pyschology and non verbal communication and advertising. Hey, sex sells! We all know that. It’s very hard to find a male who won’t interpret the sight of a woman inserting any of the above into her mouth (or other point of entry) and substitute the image of himself doing it to her.
OK~ so, many would say: “What’s the harm in a fantasy? He’s not really doing the act, she is!”
I think this has the potential to be harmful because it brings the concept of domme just a little bit closer to the collective unconscious image of sex object or *hole*. I wrote a piece years ago comparing dommes to geisha~ as far as them being considered untouchable & unattainable goddesses. Ideally, I wish we ALL (as dommes) followed those codes, but hey, I’m realistic, I don’t fault My friends because they choose to do things I don’t do or disagree with. I support their right to choose. We all come from different places and have different goals.
The bottom line is that we all have to have our own personal boundries and stand by them. Whether we agree or disagree doesn’t matter~ if we feel strongly about our opinions and stand by them while remaining open minded and receptive to debate, then we’ll have a strong community.
I hope this reads clearly. I have a bad habit of responding to these posts before I’m even 1/2 way through a cup of coffee.

Re: motivation

ok so it seems that I should have finished My coffee~ I wasn’t signed in to LJ when I posted~ the above post would be from Me~ not sure if it’s easier for wr to delete and send Me the text to repost or what…grrrr.

Re: motivation

I agree and that’s My point, I’m against the acting for profit. Now if she is doing what comes natural and is truly enjoying herself in being Dominant I’m all for it. I know even without the profit I would still be doing the stuff I do in r/t. I did r/t way before going online!

Now as far as Me having sex in My clips, I do cuckolding, I am a cuckoldress. I don’t actually show Myself nude, the penetration is never shown, they just get a glimpse of it as a cuck would.

Now with that said, do You feel that fucking a sub with a strap-on is also wrong to do in clips from Your point of view? Cause from what I have been told by others with the strong opinions that doing sexual acts in clips is wrong, also think that’s wrong, as well as any other sexual contact. But it’s silly cause to a footboy contact with Your feet, just touching them in a massage with their hands, IS sexual contact to them. It all depends on the individuals kink. Being humiliated for some gives the same effect. So for some You don’t even have to touch them, and that’s My point.

But also these people with the opinions that I am less Domme because of the sexual acts I do, also think Dommes that do r/t are prostitutes! I don’t see how it could be that, especially if it’s a long term relationship, it’s no different then a long term vanilla relationship in My opinion. So there is more to these opinions going around than just the sexual aspect, it’s also judging those that do r/t.

Re: strap on fucking

I won’t comment on that because it’s not something I do~ I did it when I was a ProDomme, but it doesn’t do anything for Me, so I don’t do it anymore (it’s been ages). I’m not interested in penetrating My subs in any way other than mentally, to be honest.

no you did not offend me ,i agree with everything you said,i was just rambling on ,i agree with it,whatever that matters haha,especially the lifestyle part,i think that is what i am always so happy about ,i think i may get this lifestyle,i am owned by Goddess Kyaa,sometimes i need to slap myself,what a lucky loser i am.i just let the world know it whenever i can. haha [i notice i say alot of”i” this “i” that,when “i” reply,that does not look right to me,,it does not matter what i think.it was a good opinion piece,break time over for me back to work

A Domme should not have sex on clips period. That is what separates a Domme from a Porn star or cam entertainer.
A Domme is someone who the slave should view as unattainable, not a slut performing sex acts for the camera.

Woah… back up for a second. Why are you so offended by being called a “porn star”? Do you really have such a terrible opinion of porn stars? Firstly, Not all pornstars “degrade themselves performing any and every sexual act on cam with many different men.” There are quite a few porn stars who have limits with what they will do, and with whom. Secondly, who are we to judge them negatively. I have NO issue classifying what I do in the “adult entertainment” realm. Even though I do not participate in any sexual act on cam, or show any nudity, I know that how I naturally act, what I say to subs, the material I produce…it gets the boys off; they are being entertained “sexually” in some way. I don’t really care if another person views Me negatively, or lumps Me in with pornstars and other classifications within the “adult entertainment” industry. I am fully confident with what I do, and how I conduct Myself ethically and therefore…yeah, if someone wants to call Me names or talk down to Me because they think “porn stars” and people that work in the adult entertainment industry are somehow DEGRADING themselves, then that simply shows how uninformed, uneducated and ignorant that person truely is. Thirdly, by saying that a porn star is “degrading” herself on camera by performing these sexual acts, aren’t you also “degrading” yourself on cam when you perform sexual acts in your cuckolding clips…even though you are not nude?
There is a little bit of hypocrisy in this opinion piece. I truely don’t believe that you are indeed “degrading” yourself. I also believe that porn stars are not “degrading” themselves. They choose the profession, and they bank on it…if that isn’t a woman taking control and using their own sexuality for profit and power, I don’t know what is.
I think that a lot of the negativity within the domme scene online has to do with dommes creating the confusion in the first place. Subs are so used to dommes calling other dommes out for being “cam girls”, “porn stars”, “lifestyle dommes”, “fakes”, “instas”, and “out for $$$”, that they think its okay to be judgemental and call women names. I think when we ourselves, as Dommes, stop putting a negative connotation on certain labels within the “adult industry” then we will find submissives actually respect us more. It shows intelligence and professionalism when a woman can sit back and truely appreciate other women for what they do without calling names, throwing stones, or creating drama. If someone wants to call Me a porn star or a prostitute because I get men off, then more power to them. I know that in My opinion I am not a porn star or a prostitute and that is all that matters at the end of the day. If I can go to sleep knowing that I am true to Myself, while respecting the choices other dominant women make, then I go to sleep happy. After all, who am I to judge? If you don’t want submissives judging you, then perhaps you shouldn’t be negatively judging the actions of other women….that simply perpetuates the name calling and ignorance .

Right on Heidi! Preach it – I like it. I really like it.

I agree, I don’t view performing a sex act on cam as degrading.

Fake/insta Dommes attempt to fulfill a sub’s fantasy in return for monetary gains, actually many of them wouldn’t even go to the trouble. If a woman is in it for the $$$, she should at least show some intelligence and professionalism by trying to learn as much as she can about the submissive mindset and about bdsm. Furthermore, she shouldn’t pretend that she’s looking for long term subs.

Dommes who want to use a sub for tributes and give nothing in return don’t deserve much respect. I wouldn’t call them names though.

As a sub, I don’t get off on controlling women and telling them to get on cam in exchange of money. She’s the one supposed to be in control.

A Domme should be honest about her intentions.

Okay what I said came out wrong, as I said at the end, I don’t judge anyone, as long as someone enjoys what they do more power to them. I don’t think all pornstars degrade themselves, some do, and I’ll tell You why… there are women who don’t actually want to do some of the acts they do but they do them for the money, that to Me is degrading themselves.

Now the reason why I said I don’t degrade Myself, I don’t do anything that I feel is wrong, everything I do I’m happy with. If My mother found My c4s store, I wouldn’t care if she seen it all. Actually she knows somewhat what all I do lol. I think as long as you have that type of mindset with it, it’s fine, but if you are doing things you would be ashamed of if a family member or close friend seen them, that’s a different story.

Another reason I said stuff the way I did is because when I am called a “pornstar” or “prostitute” this is exactly what the people calling Me that think, they think I’m some kind of whore and this is how they view Me. Like I said, I have no problems with anyone, as long as they are happy with what they are doing. So I agree with you, that not all pornstars degrade themselves. Sorry if I offended, not My intention, was really letting off alot of steam lol over the years I’ve been judge and called so many things, even had men say they wanted to rape Me to show Me what an idiot I am for being Domme and to show Me My place *eye roll*. So yes people can say some very stupid things.

For the record I’m not offended for being called a pornstar cause as I said, technically that’s what it is, it is porn, no matter if it’s just clips with You verbally abusing a loser, it is still getting them off. So technically it is porn. I only get offended when I get called it and people think that I am degrading Myself when I’m not, that’s when I’m offended. And being called prostitute I’m always offended, but most the time I just let it roll off and don’t sweat it.

Indeed, I agree, on your views of fakes and instas. That’s how I feel, but seems others don’t think that way.

Re: The way I see things

Exactly girl, I feel what I do isn’t as extreme as others or as extreme as I could go and still be happy with Myself lol. But even the simplest things I do in clips someone, somewhere finds them wrong, you can never please everyone. Some think showing any nudity in clips is wrong and then you are not a good Domme anymore, others think doing sexual acts is wrong, and makes you attainable and I have to laugh at that. I only do sexual acts with My husband and very few others in My life, so like anyone I’m selective, I’m picky, and it takes a relationship for Me to do that. So therefore I still think to the very very big majority I am still unattainable.

And it’s stupid You would get shit Tierra, I think You do what You do in a very classy way, hubby even said so when he seen Your pics and such. He said You have a classy playboy type style as opposed to some Dommes he’s seen online that are more comparable to hustler. So keep doing what You do girl, I think it’s beautiful! If I had Your boobs, I’d show em off too! hehe

“How can you compare that to a Domme that does clips with a long term relationship sub or even their spouse or significant other?”

Easily. Because you, like the pornstar, are both fucking for the camera in exchange for money.

/thread.

I don’t think I could have said it better! I agree with you 100%

I dont know you nor do I hate you but hearing you say Domm-ie is like nails on a chalk board to ME. I’m sure you’ll keep saying it but it’s hard to take anyting you say seriously saying it that way and stumbling across your words.

Not every prostitute does any act…trust me. I have porn star friends-they get paid per shoot and yes they pick what/who they do. I know escorts in Vegas that ONLY do the dinner, date, show, gamble and finish the night off with a handjob and take their $1500 cash and go home. I know Pro Dommes and Masters from going to the local Power Exchange as well. ANY money from a person for a sexual arousal/contact IS illegal and considered solicitation. Unless you’re in a brothel or in a legit porn flick, it’s illegal. Look at Jenna Jameson or Tera Patrick-they’ve made empires out of fucking on film, they’re both beautiful and both pick/chose who/when they fuck. To ME there’s not much of a diff. btwn any of the above. Each of us makes clips which are 99% sexual nature, our money from the clips comes from c4s or nf which ARE sexual sites. WE ARE ALL IN THE SEX INDUSTRY. Just bc the female is the one fucking a guys ass how does that not come out as porn, YES it’s porn. If the material gets someone off, it’s porn to me. I see nothing wrong with porn. The only diff. to ME is Dommes are more concerned abusing and using the sub. It’s a blurry line but it all boils down to two things-sex and money. Some of us forget that there are way more people in bdsm as opposed to financial domination, what “we” do is just a blink of what really goes on in the fetish world. It’s a shame more online Dommes don’t take a REAL LIFE venture into the fetish world. Then I think they’d have a more realistic opinion.

according to the handbook

and well if you are a sub than I think you just domme’d your opinion on us now didn’t you?

a domme can do whatever the fuck she wants to do and you, as the sub are supposed to stifle down and accept. or is there some sort of D/s loophole there that I failed pick up on in the handbook?

A domme should not have sex in clips , because you feel that way.

Fucking thank You

…Sweets. Thank You for the desperately-needed light at the end of this ignorant tunnel. I have so much to say (about subjects and authors), but 1)I would rather speak within My league, with trusted Minds, and 2)Miss Sweet Feet has provided a voice of reason. Why re-invent the wheel?

very very well put Michelle, agree 100% – and ps. Domm-ie DOES suck. lol.

Bravo..

I totally agree with what you just said… Maybe you need a add a opinion piece too.

Awoman…

Another one I agree too as well.

Michelle speaks it so non ensical. She’s prolly drunk again, go watch intervention some more so you can cope with your alcoholism. Your first clips your giving hand jobs and fucking your baby dady on clips. Its the same thing. Your whole watching stalking concerning your sf with others is down right scary! You spend way too much of your time following others from wishlists to clips etc. Your whole persona is nails on a chalkboard and your not fooling anyone with “living the vegas life” bs. your not living life at all

“Dommie” is just how I pronounce it, we’ve discussed that before, so lol sorry if others don’t like it, but it’s what I’m use to and pronouncing it “Dom” to Me just isn’t natural, I would feel awkward and feel like I’m talking about a male Dominant.

Now to the rest of Your opinion, I agree… We are doing porn and that is exactly My point, the ones that attack Me for what I do, are also making clips and such… so I don’t see how they think what I do is porn and what they do isn’t. It still gets the buyers off! That was EXACTLY My point. I have no problem admitting I do porn, no it’s not mainstream porn and that’s what separates Me from say Jenna Jameson, but yea I agree she is a beautiful girl and more power to her!

I couldn’t personally handle what she does that’s why I do what I enjoy instead. As far as prostitutes yes some have standards, but the ones you see on street corners in bad neighborhoods don’t and that is what most people think of when they think prostitute, they don’t think of the high class ones. I have no issues with the high class ones except I think there should be legal prostitution like in Europe here and they should set standards where the prostitutes should get tested constantly as to not spread disease and such.

I grew up in a very bad neighborhood (please don’t tell Me you’re sorry people, I hate sympathy, thanks) I grew up around drug dealers, prostitutes, drug addicts, etc. And all the time I was dodging bullets from drive bys and such. The prostitutes I grew up around were what I consider “whores” the high class ones like the one You described, that’s a bit different.

Oh and I stumble over My words because I’m reading without My glasses for one, I’m not the best out loud reader in the world lol. I type up My opinions first to have them organized, otherwise I have a tendency to go off topic then come back to it, etc. and it becomes a mess lol. So to make it simple I type it up first.

Re: according to the handbook

LMFAO thank You! hahaha couldn’t have responded better Myself!

“I grew up around drug dealers, prostitutes, drug addicts, etc. And all the time I was dodging bullets from drive bys and such.”

That sounds rough. I’m really sorry you had to experience that as a child.

I never fucked My ex in clips-hj and fj’s that’s it and I’ve never ONCE denied it, why would I. As for My life, it’s grrrrrreat. It’s 115+ outside right now, so I’m on My laptop who gives a fuck. you should get your facts straight before typing bc you have NO clue about MY life….online or what I do (or dont do) in Vegas mr or mrs anon. Get a clue, then come at Me with facts.

Wait…so even though you are so offended by subs calling you a “porn star” you fully consider what you do to be “porn.?”

Do you see why this not only makes no sense, but it is completely hypocritical?

Furthermore, if you are selling your fetish clips…even if you love making them and live it in real life, then why don’t you give them away for free? You say yourself that if you are performing sex acts for the money, then it is wrong and “whoreish.” Aren’t you inadvertently calling yourself a “whore?”

I don’t really mean to be harsh, but tell Me you can see how your contradictory statements make you appear ignorant.

not looking for sympathy, and trust Me that’s just a crumb from the cookie, that’s not even the half of it, I’ve had a rough life up until a few years ago, but I really don’t want sympathy or anyone to judge Me any differently, thanks

I second that! I wish they would have the balls or ovaries to post under an account saying who they are! Instead they hide behind a computer screen, so big and bad aren’t they? *eye roll*

Even if You did fuck him, who gives a fuck!? I’m seriously sick of people fucking judging over this shit, that’s why I made this damn piece. I fuck My husband in clips, so what? We have fun doing it! I’m definitely an exhibitionist, I like an audience lol I’d do it on in the street if I could! hahaha

I think they are just jealous cause their ugly loser asses aren’t getting any tail!

my kids are furry 6lb dogs. YEPPERS….I love my KIDS.

*facepalm* okay this is definitely hard to explain My exact opinion on this because with a subject like this it’s not black and white, there are gray areas as well and there are always exceptions

I fully admit that technically what I do is porn, it’s amateur, it’s not mainstream, etc. but it’s still porn, I’m not offended being called pornstar in the right context, but when they try to compare Me to something I’m not then yes I get offended, when they think I’m less of a Domme because of it, I’m offended, when they think I am degrading Myself, I’m offended. To Me it’s only degrading when you are not enjoying what you are doing and you are not happy doing what you are doing. I personally would not be happy with Myself to do mainstream porn in the sense of being “fucked” and used by males, fucking all of My orifices then cumming in My face, that to Me would be degrading cause I would hate that, but to someone that likes it, it’s not degrading.

I never said performing sex acts for money is wrong, please don’t try to put words in My mouth. Others have said that to Me, saying Me performing sexual acts in clips is wrong and “whoreish”.

It’s all a matter of the individual what to them would be degrading to them personally and what would be “whoreish”. What I do I am not ashamed of, I don’t think it’s whoreish, nor do I think it degrades Me, but doing subbie stuff, or even vanilla porn would be to Me, but to others doing what I do would be uncomfortable to them, and doing the stuff I wouldn’t be comfortable with, they would be comfy with. So as I said, matter of personal preference.

I’m not trying to be contradicting, nor am I trying to confuse anyone, it’s just really hard to say an entire opinion about this because of all the gray areas and exceptions.

Whose fault is that? The anonymous commenter or the people without the self-control to ignore his/her comment?

Ah? Ahhhh?? Ah.

And I don’t even think that particular comment was any more off topic than some of the other comments that’ve been posted (up till now.

Let’s not pick on the anonymous.

Have you thought about parlaying your difficult childhood and adolescence into a career in the rap music that’s so popular these days?

This is kinda hilarious. Admit it.

All I can say is if you are dumb enough to not realize that being fucked by a dude on cam for everyone to see is not making you look like a slut and not a Domme, I can’t convince you otherwise, just like noone could convince you you sound retarded saying DOMMIEEE.
It doesn’t matter if it’s your husband or a dude off the street.
And to those attacking Miss Sweet Feet, you can only dream you live the life she does. Jealousy is a bitch girls.

Well it sure ain’t boring. lol

This was said so perfectly, Heidi. I agree completely.

k, here’s My real 2 cents.

Fucking/sucking on cam when you call yourself a Domme is not what I (as well as many) consider Domme-like behavior. Agree with Me or not, that’s MY opinion. I’m not gonna get holier than thou and say you can’t possibly be dominant if you fuck your man on cam and video, but your reputation as a Domme will probably take a hit after.

I’m not trying to bash anyone, or be a disrespectful bitch, that’s just how I see it.

It’s amazing to me that “Dominant women + peen Y or N?” is still shitstorm de la semaine.

So essentially if it makes you look less dominant, it’s not what you meant to say, but if it makes you look more dominant, that’s totally how you feel.

Yah. Ok.

I feel like all of your opinion pieces are basically you spending too much time and energy trying to justify the things you do as “acceptable Domme behavior” maybe if you actually believed it was, you wouldn’t have to spend all this time writing about it.

You say Domme wrong, but if you can somehow make everyone think that there’s a legitimate reason for it, it’s ok.

You fuck a guy in the ass on a clip and get a little insecure about your reputation because of it, but if you can differentiate yourself from a “porn actress” it will somehow let you maintain your integrity.

I think my main point here is, if you really felt like you were representing yourself in a genuine way, you wouldn’t need to convince us of what you are or aren’t. If you’re a cam girl who does domme clips (which, lets be honest, no matter how you slice it, that’s how you look) Then own it. Otherwise change the way you do things. No one here cares unless you try to call an apple an orange. We’re all fruit.

Said comments only fuck up the piece if you (not you specifically) let them.

The power is entirely in the hands of the reader. The choice is yours whether to respond and derail or ignore.

And I don’t think I annoy anyone. I’m a loveable scamp! Rascal at worst.

I know some think that way, but eh, it’s a matter of opinion, and well there are others who have done more explicit and worse things in clips and are hell of good Dommes with good reps, take Melanie for example.

This is the first piece I did on how I am that other people view as wrong, so how are all My pieces about defending Myself?

I did this piece to tell My opinion on what I do cause over the years I have gotten alot of people from both sides being judgmental. I’d say some of the people I meet in the scene think that way, the others are okay with how I am or they say “to each their own”. And I think really we need to just do that, say “to each their own”.

As I said before what I’m comfortable with doing others won’t be and what they are comfortable with I won’t be. We are all different, all individuals, and that’s all it boils down to.

I don’t think there should be a set of “Domme behaviors” set in stone that we all have to go by, no one way is more Dominant than another to Me. It’s all sexuality and it’s all beautiful.

And we’ve touched base on how I pronounce Domme, that’s how I will continue to pronounce it, if there are issues read the text instead of watching the vlog.

And nope I’m not insecure about My reputation, thanks, I know plenty of good Dommes that enjoy strap-on. It’s one of My kinks. And btw My latest strap-on clip and My older one both were selling like hotcakes while this discussion was going on. I do feel I am different from a “porn actress” as you put it. I don’t go by a script, it’s all what comes natural, it’s never rehearsed. A professional porn is rehearsed and is acting. As I said before, technically what I do IS porn, but technically ANY Domme doing clips are doing porn, it’s amateur if it’s not professional, but it’s porn none the less.

I would never want to do porn that is acted or rehearsed, it wouldn’t feel natural to Me. And I do agree we are all fruit.

Don’t want you on my team…you know…the DOMME team.

Ever thought of going into politics? You can’t seem to get off the fence about anything. Your opinions are littered with neutral statements and disclaimers. This is my point.

This piece was you trying to justify doing clips of a pornographic nature without compromising your dominance.

Your last piece was about being married to a man who is submissive but he’s apparently your equal because he’s not submissive to anyone but you so you’re still using the fact that you call your husband your slave to enhance your appearance of dominance? I don’t know you were all over the place with that one. Not even sure what your point was.

The piece before that was the trainwreck where you went off about how your version of saying “dommie” was correct because you didn’t want to look illiterate. (by the way, sticking to your guns on this one and continuing to say it incorrectly because you want us to think you meant to all along, isn’t really helping you out. your justification is weak.)

And your first piece wasn’t so much an opinion as one horribly written, god awful rant.

All of your opinion pieces seem to have a common theme. There is an underlying plea of “don’t think I’m less dominant because I do this, and here’s why it makes me dominant still”

Your “opinions” are either regurgitated, badly worded versions of what the rest of us have already said, or they are poorly thought out, disclaimers on your own version of what a “DOMMIE” should be.

And no, you aren’t different from a porn actress. If you have any kind of sex on camera and it is publicly distributed for money, you are a porn actress. You don’t have to act. “actress” is simply a way of crediting you in the film. There’s plenty of amateur porn that’s just couples videotaping themselves having sex. They sell it. It’s porn. Therefore you are now officially a porn actress. Sorry to break it to you. When your kid grows up and one of his friends finds your old clips circulating, he’s not going to say “hey, so I found your mom fucking some guy in the ass with a strap on, but she doesn’t look like she’s acting, so it’s different”

And no, not every Domme clip is porn you fucking dufus. Porn is, by definition, sexually explicit. Just because a guy jerks off to it it doesn’t make it pornographic. Guys jerk off to fucking EVERYTHING. The victoria’s secret catalog isn’t porn but millions of guys rub their shit RAW to that.

Your twisted logic is what irritates me the most. I just can’t get over the shit that comes out of your mouth and you actually feel good about it like “yeah I made a good point, so there” it’s fucking mind boggling.

So how about this. You be a “dommie” and sell non-porn-like clips of you ramming your submissive husband and you can have whatever dumb definitions of what you are and what a “dommie” should be, talk shit about anyone who does it differently, then cover it up at the end of your statement by saying “to each their own”, and The rest of us will be Dommes and live in the real world, where we accept that penetrating an orifice on camera and then selling it is porn and know that being fully clothed, or naked, makes no difference in how dominant you are, only in how comfortable you are in having your junk circulating the internet.

Deal? Great.

Thanks for fixing your hair.

I think there’s a difference between a certain kind of fetish clip and “porn” altogether, actually. There’s nothing porn about, as a random example, my clip of myself drinking a starbucks fully clothed fairly normally, even if every loser who buys it jacks off to it 100 times.

Not that I don’t have more overtly sexualized material, but even then, not everything sexualized or sexualize-able (not a real word, ha) is “porn.”

Nor is there anything wrong with porn either, if you’re making porn, if you’re baring your junk, if you’re fucking your stud, huzzah, it just means your boundaries and mine (or someone else’s) are different.

I would not say that it ruins one’s reputation as “a Domme” to do a certain kind of sexual material, but it does *pigeonhole* the kind of Domination you are doing, just as my very admittedly buttoned-up approach pigeonholes me. Being blind to that or angry about that isn’t productive.

No one is going to reach or please everyone, and trying to smacks of “industry” and not pleasure.

Re: Don’t want you on my team…you know…the DOMME team.

Re: Don’t want you on my team…you know…the DOMME team.

Where is the “like” button for this response from Luxe?

Such a refreshing breath of fresh air to read such an articulate and intelligent, REAL response to this “opinion piece.”

Re: Don’t want you on my team…you know…the DOMME team.

Took the words right outta my mouth. Glad to see ya online.

I think you are so concerned with clarifying your confusing and contradictory statements that you are losing yourself in all of this.

Who cares what I think, who cares what the boy thinks…if you cannot be confident enough in yourself to OWN your original “opinions,” then what are you doing dominating men?

It just all seems a little fake in My “opinion.”

Re: Don’t want you on my team…you know…the DOMME team.

What is wrong with being neutral in the scene? Most mature adults are. Oh but I forgot, you’re still a child that attacks people for juvenile things like hair or makeup, silly Me. I am very much a very open minded person, very down to earth, and yes, I am neutral, I accept people the way they are besides judging everyone about every tiny thing like you do.

Does that make Me less Dominant? No. Btw My husband is submissive to Me, what is so hard to understand about that? There are Dommes that in r/l have Dom bf’s and husbands that they submit to, but otherwise they are Dominant, how is that so hard for you to grasp a concept of? Is it easier for you to understand Dommes that have vanilla partners? Oh wait, nevermind, I forget I’m talking to a child, right. It seems you can’t understand complex relationships and deep understandings of them, not really My problem.

By the way, the “first” piece as you thought was My first piece wasn’t, I have been posting opinion pieces here and there for quiet a while. Thanks.

Now My pieces are NOT about what I think a Domme should be, they are about how I am, big difference there. All pieces are about how each individual Domme is, DUH!!!! Maybe you didn’t get that memo.

And like it or not, others agree with Me on this, go read through the comments, every D/s clip sold IS a sexual subject and IS porn. Yes guys get off to VS mags, the main purpose of VS mags is to sell their product, and guess what sex sells so they have sexy models wearing their product. If they had everyday average women that wear their product, it wouldn’t sell as good. Like it or not sex sells. And BDSM is very sexual, so saying making clips and selling them isn’t porn is ignorant, if you think that having sex in the clips IS porn.

Hell some people don’t find regular sex appealing and get more jollies massaging or worshipping feet, so to those people a foot worship clip gives the same effect as a vanilla guy watching a mainstream run of the mill porno flick. So therefore the ones buying the foot worship clip it IS porn to them, technically. This goes for every fetish! Be it humiliation, sissification, tease and denial, ignore, financial domination, etc. Whatever your poison as I say.

And trust Me, I am not here to be on a “team”, I’m not a “clique” type of person. I am My own person but tend to get along with most everyone, besides the very few such as yourself, but really that was not because of Me, that was because of you. I tried getting along with you, I can’t please everyone, and if you don’t like that, that’s fine. You don’t have to like Me. You can look the other way, and do your thing and I’ll do Mine, sound good? Yep, thought so.

As far as My hair (again juvenile BS) I fix it different ways all the time, the vid you made fun of was My hair when it naturally dries, My natural hair is wavy/curly, many of My boys and fans like that. I straighten it sometimes, and sometimes I put curlers in it and have a more defined curl. Depends on My mood that day. Trust Me I didn’t fix it to please you, I could care less what you think.

Okay, I’m done with you for today, last response to you, I know you thrive on fighting with Me and the drama, so not going to continue this. Go bash another Domme so she will attack back so you can rub one out.

I find it amusing how when a few Dommes (ugly by the way) decide to attack Ms. Anastasia the rest pile on. Well jealousy is a bitch.
She is beautiful, and unlike you all REAL. I think she could write a piece on how to bake a cake and the same ones would bash her.
Yet let one of the ugly dommes in the “click” do a piece and everyone will kiss her ass, even if she wrote the sky was green.
Look in the mirror ladies, you are all green with envy that she has it all, and is true to Herself and could care less about kissing ass in any click. Keep doing what youa re doing Ms. Anastasia obviously others are really irritated by your success.
Great piece by the way also!!!

Re: Don’t want you on my team…you know…the DOMME team.

I skimmed that. All irrelevant bs. AGAIN.

I should probably be annoyed that you can’t keep up with my humor and are too stupid to see the validity in my points thus writing me off as “immature” because I pointed out how fucking stupid your hair looked once, but it actually just strengthens my point about you being a MORON. So I really don’t care.

Here are more things I don’t care about in the subsequent paragraphs of your response:

I don’t care about your husband
I don’t care about how many fucking opinion pieces you’ve done
I don’t care about your use of 90′s phrases like “DUH”
I don’t care about how many idiots agree with your dumb shit definition of porn
I don’t care about whatever your point was in the paragraph after that
I don’t care about how butthurt you are about me not liking you because I think you’re fucking stupid and should never be allowed to speak except to say “would you like fries with that”

And I really don’t care about what you did to your hair to make it look so hideous, I was just thanking you for not doing it this time.

So, to sum up in short a more well rounded response to your whining over-emotional and utterly pointless drivel:

STFU.

Ps. Thanks for being predictable and yet again going with the “I’m too good to respond to your drama” conclusion. That works in high school, but in the real world it is a pretty obvious cop out. And the day I rub one out to anything to do with you is the day you graduate from Harvard.

Re: Don’t want you on my team…you know…the DOMME team.

Reading these comments, watching this unfold today, has been a source of much amusement for my girlfriend and I. This comment though is so fucking perfect. I full heartedly agree! Like, thumbs up, and 5 stars.

There are only one point I am going to make, then I am out of this fray.

1- Okay, so I’ve looked into it, and although I am not a linguist myself, it is a hobby, and a lifetime one. It is NOT really a word so in that way, sure go ahead and say it however you please. But in the sense that “Domme” is really just the abbreviation for “Dominant” IE “Dom” made feminine, in spelling. Because it is feminized with the French suffix “me” (as in “Femme”) it should really be pronounced “/d?m/” as stated in the only even semi-reputable place I could find the word referenced, Wikipedia. (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Female_dominance) Honestly, just accept it and try to change the habit. Kicking it now will be best in the end.

As for the other stuff… well, thanks Lux, for saying it first. xx

It’s spelled “clique” retard.

I just find it funny that you, Luxe and others dance around when I elaborate on things. If I am misunderstood I will elaborate it a bit so others can better understand. But I guess, redoing that over and over you just can’t explain it to some people how you feel and think because someone somewhere just won’t get it.

Sorry, I can’t please everyone, I am only human. But I was merely trying to elaborate a bit on what it seemed you had misunderstood about Me. I just don’t like being misinterpreted.

It’s not clarifying, just trying to make sure there are no misunderstandings. And I’m far from fake hun, but that’s your opinion.

Thanks, don’t know who you are, but appreciate the compliments.

Oh fucking christ. Be more obvious.

I think every DOMME is entitled to their opinion and the subs just have to live with it. Subs of all calibres look for Dommes with their fetish.
That’s what it is, A FETISH not a RELIGION with rules NO BLACK AND WHITE. Porn is I THE GREY! we are in the GREY.

exactly My point earlier! there is no black and white, there are gray areas

I like that…
We should be the most open. We are not a religion, We are here for everything off kosher topic. We should be proud of anything and everything We do regardless of technicalities.

Domme vs. dommie

linguistics…common sense, whatever;) I referred to good old wikipedia last time the “dommie” mishap took place and nothing changed this time around.

What are you even talking about here? Dance around…?

What you don’t get, is that I completely understand what you are (and have been) saying. I was merely pointing out the obvious contradictions and hypnocrisies in everything that you are stating.

The only one doing a dance seems to be you, Anastasia…trying to please everyone even though you fully admit you cannot.

I never called you “fake”, and I really don’t know who you are as a person. I was, however, pointing out that your opinions surrounding these issues seem to change as you defend them from every negative or incorrect interpretation. And THAT seems kind of transparent…right?

I don’t think you need to be so defensive about all this. If these are your opinions, just be true to yourself and say “YES! This is ME.” Instead of trying to explain away every misconception about you, or misinterpretation of your “opinions.”

I need four paragraphs of thoughtful, cogent and rational response STAT.

Where the hell is FerretJohn? An opinion piece isn’t an opinion piece without him.

Good point. With all the action i completely forgot about him!

I could do without john lol but that’s Me

Hopefully he’s waiting for the shitstorm to subside so he can post without his comment being buried beneath a pile of guffaws and bad animated .gifs.

He really is one of my favorite things about this place.

That’s probably going to creep him out.

LMAO! omg. xD

One pornstars doing vanilla porn are not “sluts”

I agree sucking dick is totally not domme like, but I don’t think that having sex with your husband/sub on film doesn’t make you less of a domme. I mean really r/t (and I am talking 100% lifestyle not pro at all dom(es) ) have sex with their owned subs.

I mean am I less of a domme because I fuck kitten? I don’t think so. Granted I don’t do it on film, but that is only because of what I am comfortable with doing on film.

er, I am not saying Luxe’s attacks are always justified, but I really don’t think she is jealous, or ugly for that matter. And she is the only one I have seen who consistently has something negative to say about Ana.

And seriously why is it when one of Us has something negative to say about another we must be jealous?

he’ll probably call you gay, and then never talk to you again.

Alright, So Ana, hate to break it to you, but no matter how many times you say you didn’t mean to say that you thought all pornstars degrade themselves that is totally what you did, maybe work on phrasing things better next time.

and honestly I think that if the girl (or guy) is happy with what they are doing that its not degrading them.

Dommes Verbally gangbanging on a Domme

It’s me or since Ms Anastasia start posting her Domme Opinion piece,Most of the Dommes who don’t do any real life Domination are trashing her down to a human needle Mentally and physically. Just admit It If you don’t like her and never did, Don’t make excuses that her strap-on clips offended you and saying she not dominated or calling her a whore, webcam slut etc, when most of all the financial Dommes showing vagina,breast,crack of their asses for a buck.

If you look at It the Financial Dommes are the real whores and now comparing themselves to Ms Anastasia as If their are saints and she need to extract herself from the scene quickly? I’m just guessing this by all the comments, many are against her Opinion and they coming from Dommes who do mostly If not all sexual stimulation in thier clips or pictures included the hypno ones.

Thier’re two Dommes specially Ms Vikki who was caught with a penis in her mouth which was her ex.But no one treated her any different or ask her to remove herself from the scene, another one Ms Sweetfeet who also was doing footjob in her clips, no one asked her to remove herself from the scene too, It was her ex also. So I’m asking why Ms anastasia have to remove herself from the scene and she doing clips with her husband? even if the Dommes don’t approve of her clips that she makes.

Regardless If you don’t like her hair, clothes, how she misspell her word, how she talk, you just can’t stand It.her strap-on clips, you not the ones who buying her clips and when she write another Opinion don’t read it. It’s that simply, the Dommes is not the attention she trying to seek,”her trademark” (duh) which someone said It’s from the 90′s, It’s the slaves who going to buy her clips and will continue to do so.

(closing memento) It’s just sad to see Dommes can’t get along with each other. verbally Gangbanging on a Domme doesn’t make you look good, If only The Dommes can take their verbally ganbanging on slaves, now that be a working art.

Over many many years (more than I’d like to admit to) of being involved in a variety of D/s relationships and releasing my submissive side, I’ve come to realise that there will always be those who seek to label others and adopt the “my kink is better than your kink” philosophy. Generally we each explore our kinks and fetishes in our own way, it would be boring if we didn’t and there are always some who seek to moralise that one way is better than the other – or indeed do that by labelling another as being a prostitute or a porn star or whatever.

In truth actually that reflects more on the person attaching the label than it does those they label – it shows how narrow minded and judgemental they are. But also doesn’t that also imply that the prostitute is somehow less of a person – something which I would argue is not true.

I wholly agree with Mistress Anastasia’s blog, its refreshing to see someone tackle such discussions head on. To define a Domme as a prostitute, because what she does is create the fantasy is way off the mark. Most excellent Dommes I have come across understand the difference between the sexual fantasy and the D/s fantasy – it is all in the head, but of course there are those who clearly have little or no understanding of the intricacies of D/s dynamics, and thus no wonder they are unable to distinguish between the fantasy of dominance and act of penetrative gratification – they just don’t have that deeper understanding to be able to differentiate.

Great blog and spot on.

And in the end.

Ladies, gents….. I would say most of the young ladies on this page who are voicing their opinions are under the age of 30. One day when you grow up you will see that all this is nonsense. Business is business and how someone runs their business is just that, their business. Who is ANYONE to judge and say what is right or wrong.

Bottom line. A nice full bank account, health and a happy existence.

I’m pretty sure he left this anon comment early on:
http://womenrule6699.livejournal.com/227262.html?thread=862910#t862910

Re: Dommes Verbally gangbanging on a Domme

First of all, I wasn’t “caught with a penis in My mouth”, I actually did amateur porn for more than a year before it got boring and annoying. I had a website and everything. If I was worried about getting “caught” I probably wouldn’t have done INTERNET porn.

Second, it wasn’t an ex who I made the videos with for that website. It is the same man I’m married to now. We’re married 4 years as of this year. I’m glad you think you know so much about My personal life though.

The only thing that bugs Me about it now is when idiots attempt to threaten Me with it, like no one has ever heard about the whole deal. Come the fuck on people, that was 2005-2006. My family knows, My friends know, half of My graduating class knows… I hope that one day it isn’t thrown in My kid’s face, but that was MY choice (as stupid as it was) to broadcast My sex life on the internet for all to see for $19.95 a month, and if there are consequences, so be it.

Exactly agree. I love ms vikki and anastasia clips. This is business, nothing else and their very good. Btw a lot of subs including me get off on seeing them with real men! We know for those 10 min we could never and will never. Michelle is just a trouble maker, plain and simple. Sje tries to act like some bully but in reality she is just jealous. If she doesn’t like something, why does she read someones journal over and over

Re: And in the end.

hey now not all of us under 30 a stupid little brats. I actually agree with what you said, minus the whole age thing.

Re: Opinion Submitted

You are not entirely correct on the whole abuse thing. I will admit I had a rough past, ad yeah that may have something to do with Me being a domme now. But I have known a lot of girls who were abused and/or had absent or abusive father (or father figures) who ended up very submissive. and I mean I know several girls where this is the case.
plus they blame all sorts of shit on childhood abuse.

now wait a second

I believe a domme is a goddess, with the power and the divine right to do what ever she wants. A domme is above the silly standards that are set by MEN. As dominate women, you ladies need to realize that you can’t be held to limits or rules. Silly labels such as “porn-star” or “prostitute” or “cam-girl” were made by MEN to humble the greatest of women. Women are goddesses and they should do as they please.

my 2 cents

Just to be clear, I would say “porn” would have an absolute definition and would not be a matter of opinion. Porn is probably defined as a video in which sexual acts are taking place on screen. Rubbing feet on video is not porn. Rubbing a penis on screen IS porn. It doesn’t matter if the foot fetishist gets off on the foot rubbing video; it’s still not technically porn!

An analogy would be something like this: 2 guys on an island are exchanging coconuts for favors. You may say that to those guys the coconuts are dollars to them. But this is not true! Only a dollar is a dollar. To anyone. But to them the coconuts are CURRENCY.

Just like the Victoria’s Secret catalog. You might say that that is porn to a guy rubbing one off to it. NOT TRUE. It is not porn because there is not nudity and sex in the pictures. It may be MASTURBATION MATERIAL to the guy, but it is not PORN.

And Anastasia, I don’t mean to nitpick, but you said, “I could care less what you think” to Luxe. Well, if you say you COULD care less, that means you care on some level because you could care less than you already do. Did you mean “I COULDN’T care less”? Because that would make more sense in the context of your argument.

Re: Opinion Submitted

“Which BTW, That issue has been studied and is well known. Women are never sexual aggressors unless as a result of such traumatic experiences.”

How many “official studies” come up with anything conclusive about how vaginas process pleasure let alone women’s levels of “sexual agressiveness” – we’re completely in the dark about female sexuality as a culture because we want to be. If you believe the only reason a woman might leave the bell curve of sort of submissive vanilla sexuality is because of past “damage” you’re implying that female sexual assertion is a pathology that can be fixed. Sexually Dominant women exist – if a lot of them have been abused it’s because an appalling number of women *period* are abused.

Re: Opinion Submitted

WHOA! Where did this come from??? Okay the first part of your comment… just shocked the fuck out of Me, of all people I never thought in a million years you would support prostitution or stripping, so you get brownie points for that. That really did surprise Me, and eventhough you do comment sometimes with some crap I don’t agree with, the thing you said about prostitution and whatnot I thought was spot on.

Now onto the other part that did tick Me off a bit, and you have said repeatedly. That all Dominants must have had traumatic events to be Dominant. So even male Doms have to have had that happen? Now I’m not going to use Myself as an example here because if I were to go into what My past was and the shit I been through you would just say “see I told you”. So I’m not going to give you that gratification, but I will tell you about a few Dommes I’ve known in real life.

One in particular I knew came from a very well off family, one of the richest families in My home town (you are ex military so you know where Ft. Benning is, I am from Columbus, it’s right next to Benning). If you were ever stationed there you know the area, they lived in Green Island Hills, the hills of the snobs lol. Well anyway, she was sheltered Her entire life, only went to the best schools, and had awesome very supportive parents. And as an adult She discovered that She was naturally Dominant the entire time, and became a Domme.

So with Her how can you say it was due to traumatic events, She told Me She’s never even bit hit by anyone before. So is it because She was born with a silver spoon in Her mouth and brought up to think She is better than everyone else? Is it because now She is a very well educated lawyer? Hmmm.

There are others I knew, but I’ll give one more example of a Domme that did not have a bad childhood, or any other traumatic events.

The other one I knew in real life, was a girl who was brought up in a upper middle class family. Her father was a hard worker and busted his ass for what they had. Her mother was also a hard worker and was always supportive of her daughter in anything that she did, she was your every dream of a good mother, I use to love visiting over there haha. Well the thing is, My friend was raised in a household that the mother was the head of household! The father was submissive, mother was Dominant, but as far as I know it was just a natural thing for them, they were otherwise vanilla, never seemed to be into BDSM. But, the mother called all the shots. She managed and controlled all money, everything in the marriage and household, etc. So My friend was raised to be a very independent strong woman to think She did not need a man except for the companionship. She was taught that a woman can do everything for Herself. And just like the rich friend, as an adult discovered Her natural Dominance and became a Domme, right now She has 3 slaves. Her alpha which is Her husband. A slave maid and She has a r/t fin sub. She told Me She’s never had any traumatic things happen to Her, when She heard of everything I’ve been through She literally broke down cause She couldn’t even handle hearing about it. And that is why I don’t like speaking of My past, I don’t want people to feel sorry for Me or to break down and cry. I am a strong person because of My past and I wouldn’t take back those experiences for anything.

okay it said My comment was too long so will post the rest in the next comment…

Re: Opinion Submitted

So with this Domme what is the reason since She did not have any traumatic events? Is it Her upbringing?

I was adopted by a strong woman who taught Me not to take shit from men, who taught Me I can be independent and I can support Myself. And most My out of the nest adult life I very much did! I went out on My own at almost 16 and been an adult since. Yes I’ve had alot of hardships growing up, a little even when I moved out, but that all changed once I learned to avoid them. I’d say by the time I was 19 or so. But most of My out of the nest time I have been very independent, I always had My own job, My own place, etc. And I was raised to think that way. Yes, I was also taught that once married you are suppose to cook and clean and take care of your husband lol that’s where I think My mom was wrong, but eh she grew up in the 50′s so can’t blame her, not her fault she thinks that way. But at least she instilled that a woman needs to be and can be independent.

Like it or not the world is evolving and changing, women are now raised to be independent and not take shit from men, to be naturally Dominant, boys are being raised to not abuse women and to treat them like queens. My son is DEFINITELY being raised as a gentleman. He is being taught to respect women, to hold doors open, to treat women like the Goddesses that they are, but also to not let a Dominant woman walk all over him at the same time. hahaha

If he becomes Dominant, so be it, if he becomes submissive so be it, if he becomes vanilla so be it. I will support him and love him all the same.

Now your points about online clip selling and NF still being adult entertainment, I do agree.

Re: Dommes Verbally gangbanging on a Domme

Did you read My comment? I’m not, nor was Vikki, attacking the female that wrote this opinion piece bc she fucks on film. I simply left My opinion on her improper saying of the word DOMME, not dommie. No one cared that I did hj or fj clips, and if someone did it wouldn’t matter to ME.
I dont care bad hair or makeup, I just think Anastai back tracks her statements and can’t speak properly. I don’t get a flying fuck who or what she fucks on film. I dont have kids, so I dont have to worry one day him/her coming home asking if daddy is gay bc mommy took a strap on to him.

You are a moron. A jack ass. U just defined what porn is? Even the united states supreme court cannot define what porn is! And its been over 200 years. Yet u just explained your definition as if its fact. Hey genius a vs catalog is not porn. Ur un-educated and if on these journals a sexual deviant (nothing wrong with that). So we have this guy that gets off on females making fun of him and gets an erection setting the standard for what is porn and not pornography. Everybody relax and quit putting your beliefs and insecurities onto other people

Re: my 2 cents

yes I meant couldn’t, but geez you people really go nuts with the whole correct grammar and spelling BS, this is the internet and a blog, not an encyclopedia, as long as you knew what I meant, then just go with that

Re: Opinion Submitted

definitely agree hun, as Aimee said alot of those abused become submissive!

I personally had a hard childhood and life up until a few years ago when things started going right for a change, but still. Yes I’m Dominant, yes it could be psychological, but who cares? I need control over My life, yes. Without it I would go nuts. But who is to say EVERY Domme is like that? You can’t determine that. I could also be just naturally Dominant even without past experiences cause My mom raised Me to be a strong woman, or what if I was raised to be submissive and didn’t have the traumatic events and still became Domme, what then?

There are sooo many different types of people, you can’t say for sure why we are all this or that. We just are, deal with it!

Re: Opinion Submitted

Your way off on the thought of me thinking that to be a Domme the Woman had to have a traumatic experience such as past abuse or an absent or distant father. I did not write that. Maybe I should have been more clear, I wrote or should have been clearer that Women who are in the Adult Industry such as Strippers, Prostitutes and Adult Entertainers have been proven that they are in that profession as a result of their past traumatic experiences. And I would also had that almost all of them hate their profession.

As for the Prostitution everyone who knows me knows I am a Libertarian. And support Legalized Prostitution. In fact, I am opposed to almost any Government imposed law, regulation or restriction on personal liberty. If it was my choice their would be very few red lights or speed limit signs too.

Re: now wait a second

Indeed. I agree completely. Very well said.

SexWorker

Since I dont have a LJ account I have to respond. Caramel_Dreams (twitter) As I was discussing with TheLovelyNikki anyone doing ANYTHING related to sex and money is a SEX WORKER…if you’re not comfortable with the label of WHORE, SLUT, PROSTITUTE, ESCORT, perhaps this is not the “job choice” for you.

In the original piece it read that the author didn’t want to be judged, but straight JUDGED pornstars like wtf? you can NOT have it both ways! Not at all. Whether you like it or not, you PRODUCE PORN. They all have the same effects a guy cumming. You gave him a happy ending…just like Pornstars, escorts and the like.

NO ONE in this business is BETTER than the other one because of the avenue of the industry they CHOOSE to work. At the end of the day it is about your wallet…if you can’t handle the crap that comes with how others view you..as stated before…go work somewhere else.

I’ve done cam (still do), phone sex, hell even HAD a few of my own pornos out there…does it make me any less of a Domme from when I first started 5-6yrs ago..NOPE. does my bois, clients, customers think any less of me…NOPE. do they spend even more on me…YEP. So some of ya’ll need to get off your high horse…

BECAUSE WE ARE ALL SEX WORKERS

Re: Opinion Submitted

kitten is a stripper, and does porn and she LOVES it. and I have known several other strippers who loved their job.

Re: SexWorker

And the sound of reason! Thanks for the comment. I did not judge pornstars. I actually have no problem with them. I am a perv lol and love watching porn of all kinds! Though I prefer amateur to professional because it’s more real.

The point of My original post was mainly because of the judgments I and other Dommes get being labeled as You said, as “pornstars” and yes eventhough We find it acceptable and are happy with it, the majority of society views all pornstars as whores that will do whatever for money. I wanted to show the difference that I am not that way, not all pornstars are. Next time I’ll be more clear in My piece exactly what I meant, I sometimes have a hard time expressing in words how I feel, I’m more of a visual artist. (yes I do paint and draw)

I said earlier in comments that I feel all of what is done in clips is technically porn, of course some disagree, that’s fine. But as You have pointed out, it definitely is and they should accept that. I do cam sessions as well, and do phone (not of NF cause I can’t but with phone cards).

I have no problems being called a pornstar, My problem is when they call it in the sense that they are saying it thinking that I will do anything for money, which is not true. That was the point I was trying to make here. That I do have limits. There is not a price tag for everything.

Glad to hear You are doing well and still doing Your thing. I feel I do just fine even though others think I wouldn’t doing what I do. My strapon clips sell more than others! So hmm, if it was so “un-Domme” like to do that in clips, I wouldn’t get so many subs coming to Me, and so many clip sales.

I say we should just all do what we are comfortable with. I’m comfortable doing what I do in clips, I won’t do things I’m not comfortable with. For example, like ageplay in the sense I pretend I’m underaged, not going to happen, but that’s Me. Others who do that, more power to them!

wanted to add to this

Ive sat here for the past two days reading the comments and I did read the piece and found this all together very interesting and some comments amusing if not ignorant.
First want to touch base on this comment *If you look at It the Financial Dommes are the real whores and now comparing themselves to Ms Anastasia as If their are saints and she need to extract herself from the scene quickly?*
Financial dommes are not whores, and last I recalled Ana was a fin domme, so that is pretty much calling Her a whore but yet your trying to defend Her, counter productive.
Second part to that comment, is well it is apparent you had some jaded experience with financial domination, and lump all fin dommes into the whore category, pretty judgmental and pretty ignorant on your part.
We have to accept the fact that BDSM and its fetishes are constantly evolving just as We as human beings do, what might have been a NO No years ago with in the community, is not so much now a days.Who are We to judge, do We judge others for their fetishes or why they do it?
BDSM has always and will always be about power and control. and if you can get that across in videos and clips, and still be true to yourself and your OWN comfort level, more power to you, who are WE to judge, I think it is enough We get judged by the vanillas because of what We do, but to judge each other because Our comfort levels may be different, that makes US no different then them and maybe even worse because We are supposed to understand this realm.
Every one has different comfort levels to what they will do, do I consider some things pornish( not a word but it works lol) yes I do, I consider full on nudity and slapping skin with your significant other on cam porn, your basically fucking where is the power and control in that?Do I consider strap on play porn, No because there is power and control behind that action.
We all have Our own opinions of what may be pornish and what May not be pornish, point is some will agree and some will disagree, it all depends on the comfort level of the individual and their own level of sexuality.
In the long run Your opinion of Yourself is the only that matters.

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he’s being closed minded lol watch he will say “I didn’t say all had to hate their job” just like he contradicted his statement that all Dommes have had to have a bad past

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Lol @ verbal gangbang

Gorgeous.

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Very well said, completely agree! And yes I’m a Fin Domme, I found that comment funny and contradicting also. But eh, tired of fighting at the moment lol so just eh, whatever lol.

Been a long time since I last heard from Ya Arri, how Ya been?

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SSDD but good Hope things are going well for You

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This is a fabulous comment Luxe. Cheers for the well written truth.
Having sex on film (whether you are being penetrated or a man is being penetrated), no matter what you label yourself as…it’s pornographic material. Sitting around drinking a coffee in pjs and being filmed is not. That is unless there is sexual subject matter. Anything with explicit sexual subject matter is porn. It doesn’t matter how or what you are trying to label yourself as, you are creating porn thus you are a porn performer. It’s pretty cut and dry.

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Been going great! Just been concentrating on making clips and doing My own thing, been going very well. Hoping once My son goes back to school I’ll have more time to be a bit more active then I am right now in the scene.

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I’m way off when you specifically said, “That issue has been studied and is well known. Women are never sexual aggressors unless as a result of such traumatic experiences.”

A sexually aggressive woman, as you put it, IS a Domme dipshit. So you ARE saying that to be a Domme you have to have had traumatic experiences, these are your words.

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Interestingly, the best and most positive comments come from subs.

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#1 I didn’t know she was a Fin Domme, by the mean spirit comments about her real time strap-on was the focus point and the way she speak and write. But I see People don’t like It when I labeled the Fin Dommes as the real whores? when the label put on you, some how you see things differently and no I wasn’t being judgmental, throwing something out for you to catch it..Is my point you didn’t like it? now didn’t you. that one sentence bother you so much that you have to make a post about It, out of all the comments that was made on this posting? mostly slamming Ms Ana but you didn’t have a problem about the other Fin Domme slamming her. You just wanted to make It clear Fin Domme are not whores..lol

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Ana can speak for Herself , I don’t need to come to Her defense, but if your trying to point out that all fin dommes are whores to make a point towards the speculations She and others have been receiving in this debate, your no better than the ones who made the speculations in the first place and you could have found a more profound adult way to make a point then stooping to the level of name calling and finger pointing. Two wrongs don’t make a right.
There is always a more positive way to re in-force a point then feeding the negative with a negative,in the long run it gets you no where .;)

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I think you put everything quite eloquently. Kudos.

http://luxe-sirius.livejournal.com/49592.html

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“.if you can’t handle the crap that comes with how others view you..as stated before…go work somewhere else.”

Yes. In the original post, Anastasia said she was offended or bothered by being called a porn star or prostitute when she felt she wasn’t one. My thing is, who cares what people call you? You have to be comfortable and confident enough in who you are and what you do to NOT CARE what people have to say.

I understand that slurs hurt, but they only hurt if you let them. So don’t let them. You just do you and get yours.

Isn’t that fantastic?

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Fuckin’ A, that was Sarah Diavola.

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Sound advice there… I don’t mind being called pornstar, it was mainly directed at the ones that call Me that thinking that all pornstars are these whores with no limits and will do anything for money and have no self respect. That was when it was hurtful. But I agree I shouldn’t let the haters bother Me, cause I’m sure if they could do what We do and make the money We make, they would too.

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Yeah, after I commented I read the rest of the comments, and I did come to understand what you meant. I think it was just the wording that you used that confused people, but I did understand what you MEANT.

And yes, most haters are either jealous of the success of the Women in this scene, or they are too closed-minded to try and understand the fetish point of view. Just be proud in who you are, don’t try to please and explain to everyone. Just know who YOU are and love it. (haha, sorry for repeating myself there.)

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Also, I wanna say, to everyone, who cares how Ana says the word “domme”. It’s “po-taa-to” fucking “po-tah-to” it’s really not that deep.

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THANK YOU!! OMG, You have no clue, ever since, I think about 3 opinion pieces back (whenever I started the vlogs with them) everyone and their momma has been tearing Me apart on how I say it. I’ve pronounced it “Dommie” since day one of getting into the scene. I’ve know plenty others that are lifestyle Dommes and subs that pronounce it that way. Even the ones in r/l that pronounced it “Dom” had no issues like this.

I never had ANYONE tell Me I was wrong or that I was stupid over the way I pronounced it till I made My first opinion piece with a vlog. Saying it “Dom” to Me makes Me feel I’m talking about a male Dominant. And in one of My pieces (would have to find it) in a sentence I said “Domme or Dom” if I pronounced Domme as “Dom” then it would have read as “Dom or Dom”, doesn’t make sense to Me. My hubby agrees with Me on this also.

The first time I was torn apart for the way I said it, everyone went nuts, every comment was about how I said it instead of the piece itself. It was really annoying. And I said before I’m not going to pronounce it “Dom” cause to Me that doesn’t make sense, I will say “Domina” instead, but really why should I? Why should I change the way I say something to please a few people that I don’t even know, that have been hating on Me? If you don’t want to hear Me say it “Dommie” then just simply don’t watch the vlog and just read the text part of the piece, the text is exactly the same as the vlog.

Just want to chime in here and say you have an amazing ass. Is that off topic? Seriously in that one animated clip it was all I could stare at.

lol which clip? I have a ton showing My best ASSet lol

Well, it is all a matter of definitions and whatnot.

See, I’ve been a RealTime Pro Domme since late 2001/early 2002, by law, in most states, what I do for a living is in fact, considered prostitution. I’ve never had sex with any of my subs/clients,never did any oral exchange, and never gave a handjob to anyone, not once. Sure, I’ll plunge a strap on cock into someones ass and rape them until their balls fall off but hey, whatever gets the point across right?

Alas, law is law. Basically I had to come to terms with being what the law labels me as in order to keep enjoying what I am doing because at the end of the day, I am laughing my way all the way to the bank and wiping my ass with Benjamin Franklin.

Not all porn stars and escorts degrade themselves, some of them view their pussies as a cash machine and more power to them. We are all a part of the sex industry no matter how you dice it.
You fuck on camera and sell it, no matter who it is with, that is porn. Heck, you do not even have to fuck on camera in order for it to be considered porn.

This is the websters dictionary definition for pornography

Main Entry: por·nog·ra·phy
Pronunciation: \-f?\
Function: noun
Etymology: Greek pornographos, adjective, writing about prostitutes, from porn? prostitute + graphein to write; akin to Greek pernanai to sell, poros journey — more at fare, carve
Date: 1858
1 : the depiction of erotic behavior (as in pictures or writing) intended to cause sexual excitement
2 : material (as books or a photograph) that depicts erotic behavior and is intended to cause sexual excitement
3 : the depiction of acts in a sensational manner so as to arouse a quick intense emotional reaction

What is most important is not giving a shit and doing what makes you happy. There is nothing wrong with what you are doing and I am sure you are reeling in the dough and fuck everyone who has an issue with it. Really, it is none of their business. If they view you as competition either they can step up their game or stay down.

hahaha Thanks, and I agree. I should have looked for the definition of porn with all this going on when it did, but eh, thought it was pointless to do so. I agree with that definition. I have no problem being labeled as a pornstar and whatnot (and I do r/t also) it’s when people think I am some kind of whore that will do whatever for cash, that’s when I have an issue. That’s not how I am and they should realize that (it’s mainly sub wannabes). And yea some of these Dommes do get annoying thinking they are better than those of Us that do r/t and whatnot because they don’t and they don’t show sex in their clips or nudity, it’s the whole “I’m better cause I don’t show tits, I don’t do sex in clips and I don’t do r/t” that irks Me.

I really don’t get that mentality, cause to Me if you don’t do r/t, don’t do anything with this lifestyle in your real life, and only do it online, then I don’t know. To Me it sounds like they are acting online, they don’t actually get their jollies from it, and just see it as a way to grow their bank accounts. Even if that’s what they are doing, I have no issue, but don’t think you are better than Me because of it. The subs that come to Me will be different than the ones that come to you at the end of the day. So why be catty towards Me because I am a different type of Domme than you? That was really the point in My piece.

And yea, it’s sad that law is the way it is. I wish it would change.

what strap-on do you use i love it I wanna buy one or if some one knows please help????